Strap-on dildo

The Ultimate Guide to Strap-On Dildos

Ready to spice things up in the bedroom with a strap-on dildo? Whether you're curious, kinky, or simply craving a new kind of connection, you're in the right place. At Desirel Sex Shop, we've got your back (and your front!) with everything you need to explore this powerful pleasure tool. Let's dive into the world of strap-on sex toys — with honest tips, sexy suggestions, and expert advice.

What is a Strap-On Dildo?

A strap-on dildo is a wearable sex toy typically consisting of a dildo attached to a harness that you strap around your hips or thighs. It's perfect for penetrative play between partners — regardless of gender or orientation. You can find models designed for vaginal, anal sex, and pegging sex — the latter being a form of intimacy where a woman penetrates her male partner anally using a dildo and harness. It's not just a role reversal; it opens up a world of sensation by stimulating the male G-spot (the prostate), offering deep pleasure and trust-building moments between partners.

Some strap-on dildos are just dildos with a harness, while others come with extra features like vibration, suction cups, remote control, or dual ends for shared pleasure. Whether you're new to this kind of play or already experienced, there's a perfect option for every taste and level.

Who Can Use a Strap-On Dildo – and When?

The beauty of strap-on play lies in its versatility. Couples use it to explore new power dynamics or connect on a deeper level. Queer and lesbian couples find it perfect for penetrative experiences, while hetero couples may be curious about pegging sex as a way to discover new pleasure zones. Even singles can enjoy some models — like a strap-on with suction cup — during solo sessions. A strapon sextoy offers freedom, novelty, and shared enjoyment, regardless of gender or experience level.

How to Choose the Right Strap-On Dildo

Choosing the right strap-on involves considering your experience, your goals, and of course, your preferences. Beginners usually benefit from smaller, softer silicone strap-ons that are easy to control and comfortable to wear. These help you focus on the experience itself without having to worry about size or pressure.

Those already familiar with strap-on play might gravitate toward models that offer more intensity, like remote-controlled dildos, double strap-ons, or even hollow styles that allow a wearer with a penis to enjoy penetration too. Material matters — always go for body-safe silicone, which is hypoallergenic, non-porous, and easy to clean. And don’t overlook comfort: a well-designed, padded, adjustable harness can make all the difference.

If you’re buying for a specific kind of play, let that guide your choice. Curved designs are perfect for prostate stimulation during pegging sex, while flexible, ergonomic shapes cater better to vaginal penetration. For anal sex, smoother shapes and tapered tips offer a gentler introduction.

How to Use a Strap-On Dildo

As with all intimate acts, communication is the foundation. Talk openly with your partner about desires, boundaries, and comfort levels. Start with foreplay and take your time getting comfortable with the harness and toy. Use generous amounts of water-based lube — particularly important for anal play — and ease into penetration slowly.

Let the experience flow naturally. Swap roles if you both want to experiment, or focus on giving one partner pleasure. After play, clean your toys thoroughly with warm water and toy cleaner or mild soap to keep them hygienic and ready for next time.

Best Strap-On Dildo for Beginners

If this is your first experience with a strap-on dildo, less is more. Choose a dildo that’s smaller in size (around 10–12 cm), made from soft silicone, and paired with an adjustable, stable harness. Vibrating options can be a plus, but they’re not essential — focus first on comfort and control. The goal is to explore without pressure, and a gentle introduction ensures you build confidence and excitement over time.

Best Strap-On Dildo for Advanced Users

More experienced users can dive into toys that offer multiple functions or more intense sensations. A double strap-on provides mutual stimulation, giving pleasure to both partners at once. Remote-controlled vibrating strap-ons add surprise and excitement, while hollow strap-ons offer role-play opportunities or a solution for those with ED. For hands-free fun or solo exploration, a strap-on with suction cup gives you creative freedom in how and where you use your toy.

Pegging Sex: What You Need to Know

Pegging sex involves a woman wearing a strap-on dildo to penetrate her male partner anally. While the concept may sound bold at first, it’s gaining popularity for good reason. The male G-spot — also known as the prostate — is a highly sensitive area, and stimulating it can produce incredibly powerful, full-body orgasms. For many couples, pegging becomes a way to explore new dynamics, build trust, and share intimate, boundary-pushing experiences together. With open communication, plenty of lube, and the right toy, pegging can open the door to pleasure most men never knew they had. Curious to learn more? Read our full guide here: Pegging sex guide.

Types of Strap-On Dildos

Not all strap-ons are created equal. A hollow strap-on is ideal for wearers who want to insert their penis into the toy or deal with erectile difficulties. These usually feature realistic shapes and a firm internal chamber.

A double strap-on has a second shaft or plug for the wearer, offering shared internal stimulation. It’s an exciting choice for couples wanting to experience deeper physical connection.

A strap-on with suction cup is especially versatile — you can remove it from the harness and use it solo by sticking it to smooth surfaces like bathroom tiles or a mirror. Great for switching between partner and solo play without changing toys.

Frequently Asked Questions

1. Is a strap-on only for lesbian couples?

Absolutely not. Strap-ons are for anyone who wants to experiment with penetrative sex, regardless of gender or orientation.

2. What size should I start with?

Start small — around 10–12 cm in length and under 3.5 cm in diameter — to ensure comfort and ease of use.

3. Can I use a strap-on dildo for anal sex?

Yes. Choose a smooth, flared-base dildo and always use plenty of lube.

4. Are strap-ons safe?

Yes, as long as you use toys made from body-safe materials and clean them properly after each use.

5. How do I clean my strap-on dildo?

Warm water and mild soap or a quality toy cleaner will do the trick. Be sure to clean both the dildo and harness if reusable.

Why Order from Desirel Sex Shop?

Shopping for a strap-on dildo shouldn’t be awkward — it should be exciting. That’s why we’ve made sure everything is smooth, safe, and satisfying. Our secure ordering and payment process protects your data and privacy, while our fast, 100% discreet shipping ensures your order arrives in unmarked packaging. With over 10,000 products in stock, you’ll find everything from beginner kits to expert toys. You don’t have to stand in line or face awkward questions — and our expert customer service team is here when you need support, advice, or help choosing the right toy.

Ready to Explore?

Whether you’re here out of curiosity or looking for your next favorite toy, the strap-on dildo category is full of possibilities. Explore, experiment, and enjoy — because at Desirel Sexshop, your pleasure is our passion. Ready to begin? Visit our full selection and find the perfect strapon sextoy for you.